Colorful Glamour

Fashion, Beauty, Splashes of Color and Honoring my Inner Bombshell


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Outfit Post: Inspired by Chocolate!

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I haven’t done an outfit post in a while, and decided to put one up! This one is chocolate themed, for my love of chocolate! I thought it was a super fun outfit to wear, and thought that I would share it with you! As soon as I put it on, I felt like I was impersonating a chocolate bar. :) Since I adore chocolate, I’d have to say it’s a good thing. :) In any case, chocolate is a great color for fall. And, if you want to try a monochromatic look that isn’t black, I’m here to say it can work fantastic!

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What I’m Wearing:

  • Boots: Faded Glory, $8 thrifted
  • Capelet: Down East, $5 (at the Down East warehouse sale)
  • Shirt: Down East, $3 (at the Down East warehouse sale)
  • Brown Jeans: $4 thrifted

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Well, I’m off to take the practice GRE, so I don’t have a lot of time, but I really wanted to post about my fun outfit. I hope you liked it. And well, I hope I inspired you to try out your local thrift store (or maybe the fancy thrift store a little farther away)!


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My Bedtime Routine

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Today, I decided to share my bedtime routine. I have struggled a lot during my life with being able to get a good night’s sleep. Part of this is because I had poor sleep hygiene. Staying on electronics until the last minute, and then just hopping into bed left me staring at the ceiling for at least an hour. But with my newish routine, I am able to sleep well, and wake up feeling well rested.

* Herbal Tea –To mark the beginning of bedtime, I drink a cup of herbal tea. It’s delicious, calming, and helps me transition to sleep mode. My favorites are lemon and chamomile.

* Yoga Routine –To further continue into sleepy time, I do a 20 minute yoga routine. I use the Yoga Journal dvd, Yoga For Morning, Noon and Night. It’s designed for beginners, and the night yoga routine is nice and gentle.

* Meditation –I take about ten minutes to meditate. I don’t do anything super complicated –often times I just still mind and listen to the sound of my breaths. But this is a nice time to be still, and connect to God. I like to incorporate prayer into my meditation. Sometimes I use rocks as well. :)

* Journal –To help make sure I get rid of any pressing thoughts, I write down about my day, and how I’m feeling. This really helps to keep me grounded, to remember my life, and to help me not stress about stuff as I’m going to bed.

* Prayer –Then, before going to bed, I pray with my husband and then by myself. Talking to God is such a blessing in my life. I’m able to thank Him for all of the wonderful things that happened that day. I’m also able to talk to Him about my concerns and ask for help. And then, when I go to sleep, I feel surrounded by His protecting grace. :)

All in all, my bedtime routine is about 45 minutes long. But, for me, it is so crucial in helping me to get a good night’s sleep. What are some of the things you do to help you get ready for bed?


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Day 7: Controversial Post: Diet and Fitness Extremism

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(I love Panera Bread! So delicious, and so many healthy options! It’s a fun place to eat out. This isn’t an example of extremism -just a yummy picture.)

Day’s 7 post is all about taking a stand on a controversial issue or hot topic. I feel like I’ve covered a lot of topics during this challenge, two chief among them being weight loss and novel-writing. Although my novel is my passion, my blog is mainly for helping other women. So, I’ve decided to cover a controversial topic in the diet and fitness industries –extremism.

In our society, we have so many pressures as women to be perfect –perfectly beautiful, perfectly healthy, perfectly successful and so on. And when we’re not, there are a thousand products just waiting to “change our lives.” Most promise quick results in a short amount of time, dangling a golden carrot over our heads. While I know that intensive workouts and super restrictive –but healthy –eating plans can work for some people, it doesn’t work for others. In fact, most dieters end up failing. I personally believe that this is because we choose to run before we’re ready to walk.

I guess I am advocating for smaller changes over a longer period of time. Yes, eat better, exercise, get enough sleep. But in my experience, a 180 degree change all at once just isn’t effective. Make small goals and reach them. Then make slightly bigger goals and reach them. :) Line upon line, precept upon precept… That’s the way we were designed to adapt to the challenges of life.


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Day 6: Vulnerability and Overcoming Self-Criticism

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To be honest, when I first listened to the challenge for Day 6, my first thought was “Ugh.” I don’t like sharing vulnerability. Then, I decided that maybe this challenge will be really good for me. :)

So, today I decided to talk about verbal abuse –towards one self. I’ve been on Pinterest long enough to know that I’m not the only woman out there who struggles with being self-critical. You don’t have to search for long to find posts reminding us that we’re special, that we’re enough, and that we’re filled with glitter and sunshine. :) And yet, even though I know I’m not alone in self-criticism, it can seem really isolating. So often, it can seem like I’m the only one who spends way too much time saying unkind things to myself.

Sometimes it can seem like I’m just being honest –that I’m just speaking the cold, hard truth to myself. Most of the time, however, that’s not the case. While self-improvement is a good thing, and working to overcome weakness is also a good thing, self-destruction is not. I think a lot of what makes this key distinction between the two is the tone, or the attitude in which we talk to ourselves. Self-critiquing can be effective when paired with compassion, patience, and a belief that we can change. But when it becomes a downward spiral filled with shame, and hopelessness, it veers into the territory of self-hatred.

I believe strongly that we are all children of God. We have worth beyond measure, and the capacity to grow exponentially. I think that when done right, we can objectively look at ourselves, determine how we want to change our lives, and reach those goals. But I really think this needs to be done with kindness towards ourselves, not harshness.

But how does this apply to me? Well, let me tell you… I have struggled so much over the years with social situations, simply because of how unkind I am to myself. Time after time, I have come to the event, my heart pounding, worrying that I everyone will hate me, that I will say something stupid, and that somehow, I will have ruined everyone’s day. And then, after each time the evening has ended, I have been ready to cry, convinced that I have ruined other’s perception of me, that I was beyond awkward, and that I have ruined future chances for friendship. Most of the time, this isn’t even true. Most of the time, I just came off a little shy. While I do still struggle with this on occasion, it has -thankfully -gotten much better.

This past time losing weight, I decided to take a different route than my usual. I took small, reasonable steps, and most importantly, I worked on being kind to myself. Instead of looking at photo-shopped models that I wanted to aspire to be like, I looked at pictures of my highest weight, and said kind things to that girl. I then cheered myself on when the mirror indicated I was losing weight. I cheered myself on for getting stronger. I cheered myself on for cheering myself on! And this optimism, this embracing of myself helped me to want to reach out more, and in a very real way, it helped me to reach my goal of losing weight in away verbal self-abuse never could.

I’d love to be able to say that I’m 100% over perfectionism, and self-criticism, but I’m not. What I can say is that I have come a long way in this regards. I can feel the difference. And today, I’ve decided that I want to take this up as a goal again. I was talking to my awesome dad a week ago, and he told me about a study that indicates talking to yourself in 3rd person can alleviate chronic self-criticism (in your head of course). That may seem a little funny, but I’ve tried it, and it seems to work. After all, I’m a lot more compassionate towards others. I’ve found that it helps me to think more objectively about myself, and about the situation. So, I want to use this technique as often as I can remember over the next week.

Also, here’s a list of 5 things I have done in the past that has helped me with positive self-talk:

  1. Writing a “happy” list. I have written about things I am grateful for, or a list of my favorite things. Also, I’ve written lists about things I have done right during the day (instead of what I didn’t finish on my to-do list). I’ve even done lists filled with positive attributes that I have.
  2. Reminding myself that it’s okay. It’s okay to feel. It’s okay to experience. I can move on from where I am. This particularly helps when I feeling stressed about being stressed, or angry about being angry. :)
  3. Using a creative outlet. Now, when I say this, I don’t mean that long novel you’re editing, or the piece of art that you can’t quite get right. I mean something fun. I’ve made collages, or played with acrylic paint. Sometimes I make up a silly song. I think the combination of creativity and play allows me to be more accepting of myself.
  4. Pray For Help. I know there are a lot of religions and faiths out there, and I also know that most faiths include a God who loves us and cares for our well-being. I personally believe that Jesus Christ loves me and wants me to be happy. I know when I pray to God for help in any area of my life, that I feel a sense peace, and feel divine aid. I think that no matter is too little to bring to Him, and that praying for help in loving ourselves will be answered.
  5. Forgetting Myself. This one can seem counter-intuitive, but it does work. When I take time to try and make sure those around me feel loved, I tend to forget my doubts about being lovable myself. There are many different ways you can do this, including volunteer service, reaching out to coworkers or family members. (Of course, please don’t neglect your personal needs in the process.) This can be a great way of overcoming self-criticism.

Now, again, I don’t advocate running from challenges, or for a lackadaisical approach to life. I simply think that we should exercise the same love and compassion for ourselves that God would give to us. After all, the scripture said “Love thy neighbor as thyself” –not “love thy neighbor and hate thyself.”

Well, that was me getting vulnerable. I hope I’m able to reach out and help someone today. :)


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Day 5: Weight Loss and Sharing Tools

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“The question isn’t who’s going to let me; it’s who is going to stop me.” ~Ayn Rand

Day 5 is called the “Helpful Post.” Basically, I was asked to write something or share something that would help me readers. This post was actually pretty hard for me. What do I have that would help others? Yes, I could talk more about my book, or how to write a book, but somehow it didn’t feel right. As I thought about it, I decided that I want to share one of the tools that helped me lose weight. It’s called SparkPeople, and it is a free website that gives tools to help you lose weight. It includes basics like a food and exercise diary, weight recorder, and mini exercise videos. But what I really loved about the website were all the opportunities connect to other people losing weight, and the encouragement I found there. Also, this site isn’t about extremism, or burning yourself out in 6 weeks. It encourages you to make small, good decisions, and to make them consistently. I used this tool to lose 35 pounds, and I really love it. If you are looking for something to help your reach your health goals -one that is realistic and effective -I would really suggest Spark People.

I guess I would also like to give my own personal words of inspiration. I believe really strong that we as women can reach our goals. So often those around will discourage us, telling us that it isn’t realistic to reach for them. They may be well meaning, but in the end, only you can decide whether a goal is worth reaching for. Whether it be weight loss, another area of wellness improvement, or in other areas such as creativity or talent development or whatever it is that you want to accomplish, I believe that you can do it. I’m here to cheer you on!

In the comments, if you have goals or dreams you want to share, please do!

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